5 Reasons You Should Always be the Bigger Person

Today, I won’t start this post with some witty sentiment, I’m going to get straight to the point: I am tired of always being the bigger person.

Often, I’ve seen those of us with a mild manner and slow temperament be taken for granted, and I see a new trend emerging.

Basically, we’re sick of it. We’ve all seen someone we thought was totally sweet turn cold as ice, because they just got sick of always turning to the other cheek.

Well friends, as hard as it is, I’m here to convince you that even though it’s difficult, being the bigger person is…sigh, the right thing to do, and we should continue doing it.

Someone is always watching.

Have you ever been in a restaurant, movie theatre, or a plane and noticed that a small child has been staring at your for awhile like this:

Well, believe it or not, someone is always paying attention, and seeing you give grace to someone who seems undeserving may give them the courage and strength to do the same.

It’ll come back to you…eventually.

This one is hard, because sometimes it can seem like it may take too long for the good things we do to come back to us. But, who says it hasn’t? Who says the blessing had to be financial? What if it was you leaving home early so you missed that car accident? Or that promotion you just got? It may not seem like it, but you do get back what you put out, and you’ll be rewarded for taking the high route.

Most of the time, it isn’t even about you.

You really don’t know what people are going through, especially in a time like this. With COVID, racial tension, and everything else, it’s safe to say that we’re all pretty stressed. While that’s not an excuse to act any kind of way, it can help you understand where someone’s pent up emotions may be coming from. If there was ever a time to be gracious, this is it. I mean, you’d want someone to extend grace to you on a bad day, right?

You’ll feel better in the end.

Yeah sure, it may feel good to scream and curse and carry on, but you may regret it later. I am an advocate for expressing your feelings, but fighting perceived disrespect with more disrespect just creates a bigger fire.

Because let’s face it, somebody has to be.

It’s popular these days to be “heartless”, and that’s fine I guess. I’m choosing to extend grace, and I hope you will do.